Arguments and Hand Gestures

I remember watching "The Bachelor" a few seasons back and a certain argument took place on there that really stuck with me. There is always drama on the show which results in a ton of fighting. One of the girls on here became famous because of some of the hand gestures she used during an argument. If you watch the clip below, you will see that she uses a ton of hand gestures to defend herself. This is a great example of how people pay more attention to your non verbal actions rather than what is being said sometimes. I had forgotten the whole point of the argument, but it was her hand gestures that I remembered and got a good laugh at.

Interviewing

I wanted to find a good interview to talk about and I came across the perfect one. Oprah Winfrey appeared on Ellen Degeneres for an interview. I found this interesting, seeing that both of them are talk show hosts. They both interviewed each other, which is different than the usual way interviews are conducted where one person is asking the questions. It was very entertaining because they are both so confortable with each other so the atmosphere was fun and relaxed. It was completely random as well. I really like how they tied humor into this because it makes an interview more enjoyable to watch.

Interpersonal Communication

We can't escape communicating. If we try to not communicate we communicate in doing so. Every Word, Gesture, Movement, Facial expression communicates something. Tone of voice communicates and even posture effects communication. All of these are examples of the constant flow of communication between individuals and people. Also keeping this in mind be mindful of all of this in your life. Remember people can't read minds and they will see the way you behave way before they see what your intentions are.

It's Just Good Business

Many of us were shocked to learn this week that the Utah Jazz traded their "star," Deron Williams, to the New Jersey Nets. Many questioned whether or not this was a smart move. I for one believe it was. Deron wasn't happy here in Utah, and his unhappiness was manifest in his performance on the court this season. It was painfully obvious that he wanted to be traded. Williams becomes a free agent next year, which means he would have probably left the Jazz to play for another team anyway. However, had the Jazz kept Williams, they would have come up empty handed. Through great negotiation skills the Jazz were able to trade Williams and get quite a bit in return. Through the trade, the Jazz lose Williams, but gain two new players straight up and two first round draft picks, not to mention an extra 3 million dollars. Not a bad deal. If Williams wasn't happy here, so be it. Hopefully he will be happier in New Jersey. At least the Jazz franchise was able to get a lot back from the trade. The NBA, just like other professional sport association, is essentially a business, and for a company or team to thrive and progress, they sometimes need to make some drastic changes. In short, thanks to the communication and negotiation skills of the Jazz big wigs, we Jazz fans can have hope for a brighter future. It won't come overnight, but nothing great ever really does.

Texting Addicted

Technology has come so far in society today that instead of speaking to someone directly over the phone, you can send them a text. In this video, it's a news report about a young girl who spends her days constantly texting her friends. Her parents become frustrated because when they are trying to speak to her, she pulls out her phone and texts. It also distracts her from homework, she has to pause so frequently to send a message that it takes her twice as long to finish her work. I can relate to this because back in high school I was constantly texting friends because it was something to do when I was bored. It's a much faster and more conveinient way of communicating with someone indirectly. Now I have found that I much rather speak with the individual in person because it's less annoying than texting constantly. What takes twenty minutes to type can only take 2 minutes to tell the person face to face.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?V=XJU_OerCZVEB&feature=youtube_gdata_player

Eye Contact

In this video, there are many examples of how eye contact can be used. The most obvious reason is to let someone know you are listening and paying attention to them when they are speaking by maintaining good eye contact. Another example is using it to get someones attention. If you are across the room from someone you would generally try to catch their eye, letting them know you wish to speak to them. This can be used as a way of flirting as well. You would generally make eye contact, then look away, and back once more. Another example is that it's an excellent way to see if someone is lying. As I have mentioned before, an honest person will generally maintain eye contact with you. Whereas a person who is lying will be looking everywhere else or to the side. This shows that eye contact plays a bigger part in communication than we may realize.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?V=ZhU5QZPdZ70&fearture+youtube_gdata_player

Body Language

This video I found is about telling if someone is lying to you through body language. One way to tell is the person is usually anxious or nervous, they will have their hands in their pockets and seem closed off. She gives an example of how former president Bush would bite the inside of his cheek when he would come to a pause in a speech, this is usually a good indicatior that someone is anxious and perhaps lying. You may also find that a person is very rigid and still and cannot keep eye contact with you. A huge indicator of a person lying is eye contact. Lastly, the person has to think of a response before answering a simple question, and you can tell the nervousness in their voice because it can be shaky.